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“Excellent Presentation! Very Interactive. Very Knowledgeable.”
-Attendee
Open Adoption - A Parent’s Journey
American Adoption Congress Conference, 2019
Each new memory we have is connected to old memories, which are connected to older memories, which are connected to yet older memories.
Memories don't stand independent, self-sufficient, or isolated. They are connected to memories from the past.
- Thomas C. Rector
SHRR* provides a clear and easily understood standard of behavior that represents adulthood:
Self-sufficient
Honest
Respectful
Responsible
Using a chair as an analogy, if you leave one of the legs off the chair, it does not achieve it's full potential.
- Thomas C. Rector
We have a conscious desire to create memories. Every opportunity we have we want to be consciously trying to create those memories...
...We're looking at our environments and making sure that they are consistent with what we're trying to achieve. - Thomas C. Rector
"... I like the part about memories being baggage or wisdom, a different way to reframe our personal experiences as well as understanding the families and children we serve.”
-Shirley C.
Brain Science and You! You Make a Difference Every Day!
NAFCC Conference, 2022
“This is a great topic that can be very helpful. I would love a full day of training on this topic.”
-Donna R.
Memories Matter: Positive Response Training
Private Training for Resilient Del Norte and Tribal Lands, CASA of Del Norte, Del Norte Child Abuse Prevention Council, 2023
It's not a rote or 'rulebook' response of "If A, then do B".
We can look at the totality of the situation and the particular needs/personality of the child.
This empowers us to make intentional decisions using a variety of "tools" nuanced to the needs of the child.
Getting a clear understanding of the natural, innate, genetic makeup of my children became a really driving new space to get into. With that knowledge, it was easier to push back, correct, reevaluate cultural kinds of responses [within myself].
More: accrescentinstitute.org/blog
It’s very much a learning experience. On-the-job learning...Nobody is perfect. There are so many opportunities. The human mind is so resilient. Many things can be achieved.
You’re a memory maker and you’re investing in an adult.
accrescentinstitute.org/blog#NationalAdoptionMonth
Memories are all about the future.
The memories we are creating are intentionally investing in the future, because we draw upon memories to make our future decisions.
- Thomas C. Rector,
Accrescent Institute
I would say we never move past our past memories. They’re always there. What we are trying to do as a parent is to make those past memories be wisdom. We want it to inform us.
accrescentinstitute.org/blog#NationalAdoptionMonth
“Really Informative. 5 stars!”
-Andrea P.
Brain Science and You! You Make a Difference Every Day!
National Association for Family Child Care Conference, 2022
Q: What words of encouragement can you give adoptive parents running up against challenging behavior?
So many times, we ask and we get prescriptive or recipe-like answers rather than fundamentally what’s going on underneath this, what is it.
Read more: accrescentinstitute.org/blog
Whether they like it or not, they’re going to land in the world of adult and the reality of what all that is. Our emphasis is how can we give them the positive self-esteem, what tools will achieve their potential, not the one that we want to see, but theirs. - Thomas C. Rector