WHY I CAN’T DO 50/50 WITH MY WIFE AS AN AFRICAN MAN
I know plenty people will disagree with this, but as an African man, I honestly can’t do 50/50 with my wife.
Before anybody starts, I’m not saying women shouldn’t work or make money. In fact, I want my wife to be successful and have her own source of income.
But me and my wife splitting rent, school fees, feeding, electricity bills and every other responsibility right down the middle? That’s not something I can do.
Maybe it’s how I was raised. I grew up seeing men take pride in providing for their families. No matter how hard things got, they saw it as their duty to make sure their wife and children were okay.
If my wife decides to support financially, invest in the family or spoil me once in a while, I will appreciate it. But I don’t want a situation where the family can collapse because she couldn’t bring her own half this month.
For me, marriage is not a business partnership where everybody is calculating percentages and sending reminders for transfers. We’re supposed to be a team.
Everybody contributes in different ways, but as the man, I believe the bigger financial responsibility should be on me.
Life is expensive these days and every family has their own arrangement. If 50/50 works for you, that’s your business.
But personally, if I have the capacity to provide, I don’t see any reason why my wife should be stressed about bringing her own half of every bill before the house can function.
That’s just how I see it. Not because women are weak. It’s simply because that’s the standard I’ve set for myself as a husband.