Random, that is a pretty big generalization, but how do you actually know that many of the men were not lusting after these women?
If what you are saying truly is true, then why was the prophet marrying women behind his wife Emma's back? Why did Oliver Cowdrey catch Brother Joseph in the Barn with Fannie Alger in "A dirty, nasty, filthy affair"? That comes directly from Oliver Cowdrey himself!!
Doesn't that sound just a bit inappropriate to you???
You seem to be dancing around with these "anti-mormon lies". You are only bringing up marginally debatable claims. Let's focus in on some of the most common lies/facts we hear from them.
Let's figure out if these anti mormons are truly lying. Here are a few lies/facts that I discovered only in the last 4 years or so (even after being a member for 50 years). These are claims that the "Anti-Mormons" make...
1. Brigham Young advocated for and legalized slavery in Utah
2. Joseph Smith only saw one personage in the First Vision in his 1832 handwritten account found in his personal journal.
3. Brigham Young had 55 Wives. He married teenagers when he was in his 40's.
4. Brigham taught that the Law of God forbids whites from marrying people of the African race, and that the penalty for doing so is death on the spot, and that it will always be so.
5. Brigham taught that only Blood Atonement can give some sinners a chance at Heaven, including members of the African race. He taught that we would be doing a black person a favor by spilling their blood on the ground as an atonement for their pre-mortal choice, and by doing so you are giving them a chance at salvation.
6. Brigham taught as doctrine that "Adam is God"
7. Brigham owned and operated a Distillery and a winery. His Valley Tan whiskey was some of the best whiskey in the west.
8. President Kimball taught that if you are righteous, your skin will turn white and delightsome.
9. John Taylor received a revelation from God that said that God will not and can not revoke the command to practice plural marriage.
10. Joseph Smith translated the Kinderhook plates, which ended up being a fraud.
Ten is enough for now. Look through this list. None of these (not a single one of these) is something I learned about from the church itself. These are all things that the Anti's are saying. Are these the lies you are referring to?