I am a 27-year-old female. I got engaged to my cousin in November last year due to family pressure. The man was unemployed and 10 years older than me. At that time, his family assured us that he would start working after marriage, and they rushed the wedding. We got married in January.
Before marriage, I had no contact with my husbandโneither in person nor on the phone. He never showed any interest in getting to know me. After marriage, his family started asking me for money because I am employed. Not only his family, but even my husband would ask me for money whenever I needed something. If I asked him for anything, he would simply say, โI donโt have money.โ Even for my own medicines, he would ask me for money in front of his entire family.
He would go days without speaking to me except when he wanted intimacy. At the same time, he behaved normally with other family membersโtalking, laughing, and smiling with them. Whenever I tried to talk to him, he would either scold me and tell me to be quiet or put his earphones on and ignore me.
Despite his behavior, I continued to manage all the household chores while also working full-time. Even then, his mother, sisters, and sisters-in-law constantly spoke ill of me. I even tried to arrange a job opportunity for him, but when I told him about it, he simply replied, โI donโt want to work.โ When I spoke to his parents and asked them to encourage him to take the job, they started shouting at me and said that he would not work because I was already earning.
The pressure and treatment became so unbearable that I left his house in April, after only three months of marriage. It has now been two months since I returned to my parentsโ home. During this entire time, neither my husband nor my in-laws have contacted me to ask why I left or how I am doing.
I am deeply depressed and confused about what to do next. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
#Anonymous