How to not get divorced. Don’t get married. Divorce w/kids feels like a prison. My unsolicited advice, try dating an Asian woman, the secret is low expectations. Avoid talking to others about the D & your X, nobody wants to hear about it, except ai -it is great for trauma dumping on. study show you can write about it until you have said all you can say then you can walk away from it. But you might write for months before you can walk away. Good luck good man. Peace be with you.