Coming from an Open Source/Hardware hacking background, one of the first lessons I learned was the importance of a Code of Conduct (CoC). If you're invited to maintain a project or join a Hackspace- and they don't have a CoC, and you're not a white guy, 9/10 you're going to have problems.
Hackspaces and Open Source projects have incredibly neurodiverse participation - that's one of the things that makes them so powerful. Consumer 3D printing as we know it today- which has probably cut in half the time it takes to bring a product to market- came directly out of the Hacker/Makerspace culture. Almost every piece of technology you rely on daily is based on Open Source, and from experience- very few of the people involved are neurotypical.
Part of this is because of the way we work in these communities - how we break things in interesting ways, get them to do things they were not designed to do, combine them, and look for patterns.
As a cognitive framework, "anything not explicitly forbidden is allowed" (we usually have to define "scope" to keep things reasonable) is incredibly powerful in this context. Endless brilliant solutions arise from "But you never said that wasn't allowed?"
This way of thinking suits some people very, very well, and it's a very powerful tool for dealing with technical problems. Unfortunately, it is a terrible mode when dealing with social interactions and a group of diverse participants. Yes, some people need to be told that certain things are not okay- and that's okay. "You should just know" is one of the most ablest (and often racist and classist) things you'll ever hear. Why should everyone from every background be expected to understand everyone else's rules?
You also need to protect neurodiverse people from clueless neurotypicals, whose standards of behavior in these spaces are often abusive. Walking around and touching projects that people are working on, demanding eye contact in conversations, shoulder, and arm touching to make a point-trust me, you will have far more problems with neurotypical bullshit than the other way around. But the way to protect everyone is to have a code and rules and apply it equally to everyone.
Any time you try to arbitrarily enforce behavior, have a Hackspace manager or project maintainer just call out whatever they think is wrong, certain people get singled out, and certain people get a pass.
So it can never be Larry the manager/maintainer saying, "Bob, stop moving Julie's tools," because if Julie isn't "nice" in the way Larry likes, he might not notice the next time Bob touches her tools. Julie wants a rule she can point to and quote, a agreed upon code- not Larry "looking out for her. CoCs aren't perfect- but it helps a lot when everyone is on the same page and has agreed to follow certain conventions.
Any rule that is not explicitly written to apply to everyone becomes a tool of oppression through selective application. Demanding a rule to be applied to one person without agreeing that it should be applied to all who do the same is inherently unjust, and it's reasonable to reject it.
The Covid Conscious community is loosely analogous to an Open Source project. When we say "hack" it can mean a few things, but often it means using something in a way it was not explicitly designed to be used. We develop, test, and iterate on novel hardware designs, and many of them are given away for free. We fundraise, research, and share effective "code", even if that code is how we protect ourselves. The Covid Conscious community is also extremely neurodiverse, with a mix of people ranging from those who feel socially awkward masking in all but the most dire circumstances to those who will happily wear a PAPR because it's the rational thing to do and social signaling is irrelevant.
The best way, in my experience, to enforce behavior within these diverse communities that does not lead to cliques and petty dictatorships is not to call out isolated incidents but to establish a code that covers all such incidents, that applies to everyone, and then to address any incidents that violate that code of conduct equally.
It is very, very difficult to get people to accept that they should not do something if you are not willing to guarantee that no one will be allowed to do that thing.
I think the best way forward is for a CC working group to create a Code of Conduct that covers several recent events; clauses about mediation should be included, and then people can put in their profile that they voluntarily follow that CoC. No one should be ostracized or excluded, but it will allow like-minded people to work together knowing that they are roughly on the same page, and if there are problems, there is a peaceful way to resolve them.
It doesn’t need to be huge, just a few basic agreed upon points is a good place to start. These are more about physical spaces, but a good start:
noisebridge.net/wiki/Excelle…
noisebridge.net/wiki/Conflic…
wiki.glashack.space/doku.php…
leighhack.org/policies/code_…
vanhack.ca/wp/about/code-of-…
Fuck Stallman he's the last person to listen to on this, but there’s some decent stuff in here:
gnu.org/philosophy/kind-comm…