Honestly? I do not think we, as Dommes, should give any attention to submissives' posts.
And I am not saying I never interact with them. Sometimes, I stumble upon a genuinely cute and devoted post by a submissive, and I might like or comment on it.
More often than not, however, I stumble upon submissive men's posts complaining about something they disagreed with regarding their Dommes. About them being scammed. About them feeling mistreated.
Now – do not misinterpret my thoughts; everyone deserves a platform, and I write this simply as a human. My inner Domme senses a witty compulsion to disagree, but in my honest opinion, if a submissive man chooses to use his voice and platform to speak out on anything connected to D/s, it should be strictly to improve the devotion, manners, and behavior of others.
Not to correct Dommes, not to shame them, and not to drag them down.
Over the past year, I have been in touch with tons, possibly hundreds of subs – mostly because I am active across multiple platforms and in real life – and the truly "in-core" submissive men have always spoken respectfully and genuinely about their current or former Dommes, no matter how things ended. Even if there was some serious friction between them, post-connection devotion does not allow a true submissive to throw shade at a Domme in front of anyone else.
When you interact with submissive men's posts about their negative experiences, you are helping them paint a picture that is entirely subjective, born out of their individual experience and emotional dysregulation. It fuels the narrative that the majority of Dommes are scammers, or unethical (a term whose usage in this context deserves its own article and is inherently misogynistic), or insert your own label.
When you engage with and validate a sub's post like this – no matter how valid it may seem on the surface – you are helping to shroud the millions of men who send us unsolicited dick pics, who threaten us, who shame us, and who violate us.
When you sympathize with a sub over being "scammed" by a Domme, you ignore the thousands of Dommes who accepted post-session payment terms and never got paid for the work they actually delivered. When you interact with a post that calls out "scammer Dommes," you become part of the collective that makes the men who charge back hundreds of dollars on content platforms – after gooning over it for hours – invisible and unaccountable.
We always talk on X about how constantly posting on your timeline that subs are scammers scares away paying submissive men.
Well, I think we should talk more about the men who dare to whine about scammer Dommes while completely ignoring the men who do far worse, especially when actual scams by Dommes represent the absolute minority in this space.
Dear people, please use your brains and intellect more.
Mistress Michaela