The core issue with your decision is not the abortion itself, it's the reasoning behind it.
Now I'm not here to argue pro-choice or pro-life, but by terminating the pregnancy due to the high likelihood of Down Syndrome, you're effectively sending a message to any future children you might have: that your love and acceptance will only be extended if they meet a certain genetic standard.
You framed this child as disposable once their potential disability became known, prioritizing your own comfort. This is a damning statement on conditional parental love.
Let me present to you a hypothetical:
Imagine you try again and bring a seemingly healthy child into the world. Then one day that child takes a bad fall on the playground, suffers permanent brain damage, or injures their spine and ends up paralyzed. Will your love for them suddenly vanish because they are now disabled?
No one wishes for such tragedies, yet life is full of perils, dangers, and inconveniences. People endure life-altering injuries all the time, especially during childhood and adolescence. By ending this pregnancy, you are not protecting the child from hardship. You are eliminating them so that you will not have to bear the inconvenience of raising a disabled son or daughter. That choice reveals a willingness to discard life when it fails to meet your expectations.
Children are burdens even when perfectly healthy. From the moment they are born, everything you do shifts toward their needs. The selfish freedoms you once enjoyed disappear, replaced by sacrifice and responsibility. If you are not prepared to face such realities, including the very real possibility of disability or injury, then perhaps you are not prepared to become parents at all.
As for the backlash, this is what happens when you publicize your life.
As online personalities who have built careers sharing your lives, you should understand this basic truth. When you broadcast a highly controversial choice, people will respond forcefully.
Welcome to the internet.
Actions like this carry consequences, and the gravity of the decision made the reaction both predictable and justified.
I’ve never seen such hate and vitriol for two people grieving the loss of their unborn child and making an impossible decision.
The last 24 hours have exposed a side of humanity that is deeply disturbing. Being called “murderous pieces of shit, evil, compared to Hitler” and receiving NON-STOP DEATH THREATS.
Seeing my 6-year old dog with Stage 4 Kidney Disease be used as a weapon, manipulating my words and intent in a tweet or saying we’ll regret this decision forever and must repent to God is absolute insanity.
If you ever wanted to marvel at the depravity of people online, just check the replies on my latest tweet. It’s a shit-show of epic proportions. This is reflective of the current world and landscape we’re all living in.
What’s more troubling is a lot of these people use God or Jesus as their justification for threatening us and wanting to cast us into Hell…seems pretty hypocritical.
So many saying they would’ve kept the child, put it up for adoption or are suddenly ready to adopt a down syndrome child, that’s great! You can do all those things. However, many of the people throwing stones don’t even have children, let alone one with a condition and most likely will never do the things they say they’re going to do.
There has been some heinous shit said about my wife and I on some extremely large accounts…It baffles me that there are such trashy-ass people who have significant followings. If you can’t contribute anything meaningful to the conversation aside from insults then just don’t post.
On the other hand, there has been tremendous stories of people who kept their Down Syndrome baby and that’s awesome! Very courageous and they do look very happy! That is your choice and I support it. This was ours and we can do that. It’s very easy to accept the differences between us when it has no actual bearing on your life.
What shocked me most of all was that this story has become mainstream news…A couple’s abortion is suddenly newsworthy in 2026…?
There are over 1,000,000 abortions every single year for a myriad of reasons, this is happening on a DAILY BASIS and is the most common outcome for Trisomy 21, yet this one blows up and people are surprised…?
The reason this blew up is quite simple: IT’S BECAUSE NOBODY TALKS ABOUT IT.
I can’t blame people for not talking about these vulnerable experiences publicly because you see the disgusting backlash that ensues. It’s very divisive. Luckily, after 20 years on the Internet, this is par the course for me taking on the crazies, so I’m glad I can help further the conversation.
That’s exactly why I wanted to share this story. People still need to see vulnerability and hear the raw truth. There is real suffering going on and it is being done in silence and fear.
So many mothers have reached out privately commending us on our bravery to speak truthfully about this topic and we really appreciate that support! We want you to feel less alone in this and less ashamed.
There has never been a more important time to speak up and out about the things that matter. Do not let the vocal minority stop you from sharing your truth.
To those who have been affected by this or are confronted with a similar situation in the future, we have your back and please feel free to reach out. I’m sure this will follow us awhile especially when we try for a kid again in the near future.
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