A few brothers are strawmanning and making comments assuming you have to be a hafidh in order to refute/give naseeha,
That is not the intended message, the message is clear to me, sitting hours upon hours arguing with women, with the worst of manners, and preoccupying yourself with gender related issues will harden your heart, the purpose here is to focus on what is important without being sidetracked and wasting your days making every womans fault your supposed responsibility.
“One of the reported instructions ‘Umar wrote to Abu Musa Al-Ashari and those under his governance during the former’s Caliphate was,
“Seek knowledge and understanding of (fiqh) the Sunnah and seek knowledge and understanding of Arabic.”
Ibn Abî Shaybah, Al-Musannaf Vol.6 p126.
I remember reading this almost a decade ago and it’s ever more relevant today