Surrender involves releasing your energy to things that you can’t control.
It’s recognizing that the only thing you can control is YOU and how YOU respond to those around you.
Often the need to control others is born out of fear.
There’s a fear of not being good enough, a fear of repeated patterns from the past or a fear of abandonment.
As we face & name it, we give ourselves permission to embrace connection over control.
The feeling of stuckness can make us feel stagnant & frozen.
Finding movement or energy through our breath or heartbeat is a good reminder that things are always moving in the body.
Restoring our connection to the flow within, reminds us that we are not totally stuck.
A lot of people quit therapy or coaching because they convince themselves it’s not working. Healing involves discomfort.
Growth happens in small steps & isn’t often visible as it’s happening.
When things get uncomfortable or uneasy, things are shifting & growth is happening.
Many of us spend a lifetime trying to fit in where we don’t belong.
We shrink ourselves or become bigger and bolder to feel a sense of belonging,
We know we’ve finally found our place when we no longer have to perform or hide but simply be.
When we think we can change peoples minds or project our own views onto others, that’s us trying to control.
It doesn’t work the way we’d like it to. As we seek control, we move further away from connection.
Boundary violations can be physical, energetic or emotional.
When we experience boundary violations we often become boundary-less.
As we develop a deeper understanding of how limits have been breached, we develop awareness in how to set & follow through on boundaries.
Often when the body goes into a freeze response the hands and feet may feel cold & numb.
Slow & gentle movement over fast & furious can help to gradually ease the body out of a freeze state.
Easy does it, slow & steady so your body can gently feel the flow within.
People normalize their experiences.
So much so that they narrate their lives to others & are completely unaware that their words are shocking to the listener.
Because to them it’s their everyday experience.
Sometimes the overwhelm is not because you have so much to do but because YOU always manage to do it all
There’s a loneliness that comes with being the one that holds everything for everyone
The overwhelm is from the never ending list, coupled with being the keeper of the list.
A common feeling with trauma survivors is lacking a sense of belonging.
There’s a feeling of not fitting in because trauma often robs us of the sense of connection to ourselves & others.
Being highly judgmental is often a reflection of inner shame.
It’s protective, by focusing on the flaws & faults of others it’s a way to avoid the shame that lives within.