I honestly do not understand why one grown woman has such an unhealthy obsession with other grown womenβs bodies, asses, vaginas, and sexual lives. I find it disturbing, not empowering, not brave, not βspeaking truthβ but it is just sick.
This level of fixation says nothing about the people she is talking about but shows everything about what is going on inside her own head. Normal, balanced people do not spend their time publicly speculating about other peopleβs sex lives, health, or bodies.
This is not criticism. This is harassment.
This is not concern. This is obsession.
And dragging sexuality, misogyny, and humiliation into volunteer and military spaces is exactly the kind of behaviour that poisons communities and helps no one, least of all Ukraine.
I am not interested in responding to vulgarity with vulgarity. I am not interested in explaining my private life to strangers. And I am definitely not interested in normalising this kind of behaviour.
People who are actually doing the work donβt need to sexualise, insult, or dehumanise others to feel relevant.
I will say this calmly, without drama.
Instead of ever just saying yes, I made a mistake, and learning from it, this person keeps going. Over and over again. No pause, no reflection, no accountability. Just pushing further every time and more and more ugly every time.
What honestly worries me the most is that she keeps engaging with russian-minded troll and bot accounts that have settled inside pro-Ukrainian spaces only to create drama, distraction and infighting. Anyone who has been around this work for a while knows exactly how those accounts operate and why they exist.
I donβt know what kind of advice she is getting or what validation she thinks she is receiving from those circles, but it is clearly not doing her any good and it is definitely not helping Ukraine.
Going after volunteers, attacking people personally, questioning disabilities, throwing accusations around, this is not speaking the truth. This is bullying. And repeating something again and again does not make it true.
Every euro raised honestly matters. Every hour someone gives matters. This has never been a competition. It never will be.
I genuinely hope that at some point she stops and looks at what sheβs actually doing. Because this constant attacking, this obsession, this need to tear others down, it doesnβt come from strength. It comes from something unresolved inside.
Iβm not going to play this game. Iβm not going to trade insults or keep feeding the noise. My energy is needed elsewhere, by people who are actually doing the work and paying the real price.