Every woman thinks she's one of the rare good ones with appropriate emotional responses, and any guy who reacts negatively is clearly crashing out and emotionally immature
I don’t have stats to back this up, so take this with a grain of salt if it triggers you.
It’s come to my attention that we have reached a state in our intersexual dynamics where the average good woman is more competent in emotional containment than the average good man.
This is not good or healthy. In isolation, it’s great these women have done the work. They show up stable, secure, regulated under pressure.
But it means we can now add emotional discipline to the list of things women are outperforming men in. Along with workplace performance, earning potential and intellectual pursuits.
The thing that made men classically masculine… has been earned by good women. While men fall behind.
This places good women at a disadvantage in mate selection despite being individually superior. And it gets worse.
When these women show up in dating intentionally for marriage (trustworthy, respectful, vulnerable, supportive, accountable, receptive, warm, feminine, boundaried, willing to reciprocate), men crash out at the first sign of real pressure.
They detonate, collapse or play the victim. Her clarity (which he lacks) becomes the trigger.
Yet these women badly want men to have the leverage here. They’re just not finding men who can rise to meet it.