Phionah, do not encourage this. It doesn't build anything at all. Instead it just facilitates more breakups. And if I told you that it's likely a fact that more families are living together with cases of infidelity among couples and known to them than those who are not, you wouldn't argue against it.
It is not a healthy thing to accept, but coexistence is that complicated, and yet probably that simple, that you may not be able to have that man all to yourself. And your happiness is not entirely hinged on you being his only woman.
In my case, my woman already knows not to watch or consume contents that increases her discomfort and lack of confidence in the things we do and who I am to her. She knows not to approach me with a question that is not generated by her because we'll discuss it until we get to the bottom of it, she'll find alignment from her judgement, not others and their experiences.
I remember my elder brother (may his soul rest in peace), married a woman who is Anglican.
During marriage arrangements and agreements, she converted to Catholic because he was catholic.
During the course of their marriage, she would do everything Catholic and being his children as catholic.
Until she started watching one TV Show called
#TheBorgias.
During and after that Show, she never stepped foot in the Catholic church again, and used whatever she watched from that show as her reason.
Her husband would go with the children he could go with to church, while she goes with the others she could convince, to Anglican church.
Rift grew and until his death, whilst living in the same house, there was no sign of peace.
Did the show make her go mad, no. She likely didn't enjoy the idea of being Catholic from that start, but due to respect for her husband and desire for a healthy coexistence, she sacrificed.
Did the show give her strong reason to come out and rebel, possibly, most likely.
Are you 100% sure your husband isn't promiscuous? No. Do you suspect him of having an affair or that he might if given the opportunity? Absolutely.
Do you react on your suspicions, very unlikely, for the sake of healthy coexistence and due to trust and respect for your husband, you sweep your doubts under the carpet.
Does
#ThePolygamist give you visible cues and signs of a promiscuous man, yes. Are you going to see these signs in your man, absolutely. Has the show shown you the suffering and tribulations of a woman who's stayed with a promiscuous man? Yes. Are you going to imagine it'll be you? Yes.
Are you then going to act on these signs you see in your husband? Intentionally, some women will, unintentionally most women will. So yes, you are.
Things you would have let pass, now become big things because now you have projected the consequences of your pretense to be ignorant to a very devastating result. And that is how you end up breaking your beautiful marriage.
All from a small show.
Hopefully we're mature enough to realise that coexistence is extremely complicated and is not as simple as "you cheat, I leave. You bring another woman, I leave."