A lot of you have been servicing topping, as a service to men, because you have no fucking clue what you want.
Yes, you can engage in all the kinks and fantasies that a submissive wants- but what do YOU want? What is it that YOU like? If you donβt know what you want, you will always be in service to the person who knows what they want.
When you start leading from a place of βWhat do I want?β, both of you are going to have a much better time together.