"But now something further is required of Christians than to put on a cheerful face and to make their duties cordial with polite words. First, Christians must place themselves in the place of the people whom they see need their help, and have compassion on their condition as if they themselves were experiencing and going through it, they should do this so that a feeling of mercy and kindness may induce them to provide for them just as they would for themselves. Those who come to the aid of their brethren, with this mindset will not only avoid sullying their service with any arrogance or contempt but also avoid despising the brother for whom they are doing good, as a charity case, or holding it over the person's head as someone who is obligated to them, that is we should no more do this, than we should insult a sick body part when the rest of the body is working on restoring it to health, or that the rest of the body parts should consider the sick part especially indebted, because it has consumed more resources than it can repay."
On The Christian Life by John Calvin