If youâve ever been seriously hooked on nicotine, you know how difficult it is to âquitâ
I was one of those people for 4-5 years. Iâd even charge dead vapes with wires in high school to get a few extra hits, and avoid the cope of buying a new one.
Once I finally broke through it took a solid 90 days for the cravings to fully subside and identity to shift.
Phone / SM addiction is 1000x worse.
Checking at 8:30 wonât last if the desire is a fully reformed relationship⌠for me at least. Not a moderation type of deal IMO. Itâs a mandatory 3 month cold reset THEN coming back with a strict structure in place, with 99% of the use case being creation.
This isnât a restriction play, itâs a redirection play. The reason I keep failing isnât intention or lack of willpower, itâs the architecture to redirect the energy.
The desire for cheap dopamine will fade so long as youâre able to consistently fill those gaps with real dopamine generating activities. Not just gym, walks, writing, reading⌠a real challenging, useful, monetary project to sink your teeth into.
Once the free attention goes stale youâll be right back online. Have to shift it into positive outputs, and youâll be shocked at how much more time and focus you have.
I made it about a week off SM and my resting heart rate noticeably dropped. Look into your DMN, variable reward, attention residue, and how this stuff floods your PFC.
Phones are drugs. Speed running devices for our own spiritual seppuku.
My brain is constantly looking for ways to get a quick hit.
The pull to check each social platform twice in quick succession is very strong. Not even to read the content, just to swipe through fast, open and close apps, and then put my phone somewhere in reach but out of sight.
So strong in fact it's syphoning energy away from the tasks that I actually want to get done. My potential wasted. This is definitely withdrawal.
Feels gross even talking about this. What do you mean you can't work without immediate proximity to a device? What do you mean you need a notification bell icon to feel something?
Fighting the gremlin is rough right now.
The withdrawal in the back of my mind, increasingly agitated by the "you're blocked" splash screen on any device I instinctively try to access content on.
"But what if we need to access something? What if I want to post something?" Scratching at the insides of my skull to get a tiny indication of relief. Any angle possible to get another hit.
What my drug-riddled mind doesn't realise though, is I can't unblock these sites anymore. There is no escape hatch. From midnight to 8:30pm every day they're locked. Truly nothing I can do.
With no back doors, cheat codes or workarounds. Cold turkey is the only way I can break this pattern.
And this is just day one of blocking social media until 8:30pm. Iâm also exceptionally bored.