Iâve just read this opinion piece written by a man. I am compelled to reply. Not because he doesnât have a right to his own opinion but that he forgot the most important part of the problem.
He seems to assert that more migration is the answer because women want working lives more than they want children. Yet he never once explores the position of women themselves.
What if large numbers of women would actually like children, sometimes more children than they have, but modern society has made family life economically, socially and culturally harder?
For decades, women have been told that being a stay at home mother is less valuable than having a job, As a result, it is now often presumed that womenâs ambitions are the same as menâs.
For some women that may be true, but for many others the cost of living and societal expectations mean they cannot stay at home and be the one thing they may truly want to be ⌠a mother raising her own children.
Pieces such as this let women down. They do not support women by asking what they actually want! instead they begin with assumptions about what women SHOULD want. The possibility that many women are suppressing their desire for a larger family because of economic pressures, social expectations and cultural attitudes is barely considered.
It is incredibly sad that while labels such as âtoxic masculinityâ have hurt many young men, we largely see women made to feel that traditional aspirations are somehow regressive or shameful. The words âtrad wifeâ used disparaging.
There is nothing toxic about wanting babies and wanting to look after them yourself. It is natural, it is beautiful, and it deserves respect rather than dismissal.
And whatâs more, it actually is the answer to falling birth rates in this country! A society that truly values itself, would value the huge importance of women who want to have babies but canât!
Youâre welcome.