Core signs you’re chronically dysregulated:
1. You can’t engage in conflict without lashing out or completely shutting down
2. You’re consistently feeling tired but wired (want to sleep but can’t)
3. You’re impatient and feel agitated at your baseline
when someone respectfully informs us that something we’ve said or done was hurtful, this shows that:
a) they trust us enough with their feelings to talk about it
b) they’re identifying behaviour that is a potential threat to the connection and value it enough to want to repair
the animal sanctuary account i follow just made a post about how one of their elephants had a “i didn’t know i was pregnant” type delivery that was so shocking that when the baby just dropped out onto the ground the other elephants ran away screaming
Sometimes, having to start a task can be the hardest and most frustrating thing in the world to me. I often force myself to sit down and start working but I only get irritated until I cry. This is so hard to explain.
Part 1 of 4 explaining why this happens coping tools
ALT An info graphic explaining why it's hard to start tasks with ADHD.
Our inability to start a task is not a character flaw, it's a neurological problem.
The executive functions:
self motivation, needed to start and complete tasks. organizing and prioritizing to decide what tasks to do in what order. impulse control so we don't get sidetracked by the next shiny task. sense of time, to estimate how long tasks will take. Other EFs are emotional regulation and self-monitoring. These executive functions are a collection of tools in our brain. ADHD impacts those tools negatively.
At the bottom is a list how to identify task inertia.
1 you want to do a task but cant 2 knowing the conesquences doesnt help 3 it feels like your body isnt cooperating 4 you can do other things that are fun or: you can't even do fun things 5 you feel burnt out but haven't been overworking 6 feeling anxious knowing you have to do this task later 7 saying i dont know when asked why you didnt do a task
Many people have a consistent fawn trauma response.
Fawning is: people pleasing, appeasing, or just going along with people to avoid conflict.
HERE’S WHY WE DO IT AND HOW TO HEAL FROM IT: 🧵
last night my gf's dad asked me who i was voting for in the midterms and i told him i will be voting for the party who is not trying to overthrow the government and does not have the full support of the Nazi's & the entire room got quiet and looked at me so i said it again
I was making 12 cents an hour teaching people in prison how to use Microsoft on computers. While my White supervisor made nearly 6 figures to "supervise" me do it.
That is what they mean by modern day slavery.
PLEASE DONT GET COMFORTABLE W THE STATUS QUO
PLEASE DONT GET DISTRACTED BY CURRENT EVENTS
THE MIDTERM ELECTIONS ARE HERE
VOTE VOTE VOTE VOTE VOTE
THE SUPREME COURT DEPENDS ON IT
REPRODUCTIVE HEALTH DEPENDS ON IT
VETERANS RIGHTS DEPEND ON IT
LGBTQIA RIGHTS DEPEND ON IT
Do any other #Autistic people ever get so overwhelmed and upset that the next day, they just feel so disconnected and not "there"? I'm feeling this but I have no idea on how to properly describe the feeling and I don't like it. ):