People who come to me for coaching are often in shock.
They canāt believe that poker, the one thing in the world that they felt like was just for them, can now make them feel completely miserable each day.
They used to love it so much.
Couldnāt stop thinking about it.
Win or lose, they had a blast.
How can you start here, then become so miserable?
They always want to blame the game and variance and the lifestyle, but in reality the game is exactly the same, they just started to play it differently.
In the beginning, you fall in love.
Deep emotional connection.
But poker has a weird and awful culture in which everyone is trying their best to practice and idealize emotional disconnection through things like ābeing logicalā and āreframing the situationā and āseeing the big pictureā and using exercise and healthy eating to reduce or eliminate the pain of losing.
All of that kills your emotional connection.
Kills the part that got you to fall in love.
And so now you donāt feel that passion, and all youāre left with is an activity where you can do your best for several months straight and end up with way less money than you started.
I wouldnāt want to sign up for that either.
The key to a long and happy life in poker is simple.
You already had it once.
You just need to get it back.
Prioritize finding that sweet emotional connection to the game again that drew you in.
Itās still there, I promise.
If youāre miserable, itās just that you buried it by doing all the stupid stuff everyone else is preaching about which creates emotional disconnection inside yourself and everything you associate with.
Change this, and everything changes.
All of a sudden, youāll feel like you did at the start.
Your best times, and your best performances will happen here.