Imo, this is extremely valid. If they wont engage in activities knowing it will make you happy, what makes you think they'll do it later? Like buying flowers without asking. Its an act of service, a thoughtful loving gesture. A form of love language they refused to participate in
I am so picky when it comes to dating. Last year I went to a street fair with this guy and he wouldn’t get his face painted with me and I was like immediately this is not anybody I want to be with bye