Says it all, really! I've been there! I've cried at work. It didn't mean I was rubbish at my job. I have consoled men who also cried at work. It didn't mean they were rubbish at their job either! It's a natural human emotion, and I my heart goes out to anyone struggling at work.
I’ve thought a lot about whether it’s the right thing to talk about Rachel Reeves crying at PMQs.
Because crying is not something we should be ashamed of, or something we should be judged for.
Because crying is something associated with women - and in particular this misogynistic idea that women are too weak and emotional to be able to hack difficult jobs like being Chancellor (remember of course Rachel Reeves is the first female Chancellor as well.)
And because on a human level I feel really sorry for her.
I’ve cried at work. I’m sure lots of us have. And the Chancellor doesn’t have the luxury of being able to hide in the toilets, or slope off early.
But people WILL talk about what happened at PMQs, because when it comes to politics, visual images stick.
I remember that image of Rishi Sunak announcing the election in the pouring rain - an image he never really recovered from.
Or the conference letters falling off behind Theresa May.
Or Ed Miliband and the bacon sandwich - people don’t remember his tax proposals but my gosh they won’t forget that bacon sandwich.
And people will remember Rachel Reeves crying at PMQs too.
Politics is not fair, and none of those moments that we all remember were the fault of the individual.
But here’s the thing - they stuck in the public consciousness because of a sense they were symbolic of a wider truth.
They didn’t happen when the politicians were at their strongest - when they were Teflon - they happened when they were weak.
And I cannot emphasise enough what a big deal last night was.
The Government was forced to junk its flagship welfare policy just an hour or two before the vote. That is such a big moment. Honestly I’m not sure things will be the same again.
It’s a bit like a couple having a terrible argument in a long term relationship - they might not break up, but something changes. They never completely recover.
Keir Starmer’s authority.
The loyalty of the parliamentary Labour Party.
People’s faith in the No10 operation.
And most importantly - the bond of trust with the electorate.
Because they told us again and again these changes were necessary and that they had no choice. They said they were going to happen...and then they didn’t.