You have to be extremely self aware for this as a man. You have to have the ability to sit with very uncomfortable truths about your parents, esp your father as a man, a husband & a parent. This is a very uncomfortable & disturbing process, given most men are avoidants!
Bro to bro: study the patterns in your family. Look at what distracted, delayed, or derailed the men before you, then make intentional decisions to break those cycles. refuse to be a victim of generational curses