i'm sort of addicted to working my butt off, always have been. in oss, that can consume you. constant feeling of urgency, as issues stream into the repo. been there many, many times with my other oss.
but that urgency is not real. if something is truely broken, a large number of people will scream at you on all channels. which has happened exactly zero times so far, or was caught minutes after a botched release and immediately fixed.
it's kind of crazy that some people expect better support from an oss project than from commercial software. i think that's largely due to most commercial software corps not giving a fuck. try filing an issue with corporate and getting it fixed within 24h or less plus a personal response.
and as oss builders don't have a corporate facade shielding them from direct contact with users, some sort of bidirectional parasocial relationship establishes itself. at a certain scale, that becomes entirely unhealthy.
for every 10 kind and thoughtful people, there is 1 asshole. and whatever the asshole says or feels entitled to, sticks with you much more than positive feedback.
obv. also happens in corpo environments, especially if you do comms or dev rel, where you put your face and name out there.
but a corp that can afford dev rel usually also has a large team in the back, which can soften the negative aspects.
in oss, you are largely on your own. and unpaid. that too is a choice of course, and nobody is forcing anyone to do oss.
but if you want oss to work, consider that there are other people at the end of that issue tracker/social media account, with lives and squishy human parts. also consider that you are paying nothing for their service, and you are owed exactly nothing, neither code nor attention to your every wish.