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ā'You donāt seem like one of them.'
I didnāt ask what he meant. Iām sure we both knew. I wasnāt what heād been told to fear. I didnāt fit the mold of what the people he trusted in media said Iād be."
Yesterday, I waited in line for about forty-five minutes to participate in early voting.
There were many conversations happening around me. A family with four kiddos chatted with an older couple about how they wanted to show their kids the importance of voting. Three men in full out leather and bandanas talked about getting their bikes detailed before the Halloween ride. A mom with her newborn breastfed while she waitedāa level of multi-tasking that was wildly impressive. A veteran had trouble standing but didnāt want to use the curbside option so a stranger, but fellow veteran, helped him from bench to bench until he reached the door. And directly in front of me was a gentleman Iāll call Henry. Henry was using a walker, wore khaki shorts and a golf shirt and told me about his time working at IBM when the whole wall of computers didnāt hold as much memory as my phone.
When you spend 45 minutes in line with strangers you sometimes get to know them a bit. And here thereās a slight sense of anxiety knowing that in this hotly contested election some people hold values that may be vastly apart from your own. But I chatted with Henry, told the mama not to worry and wondered if I should have brought my littles with me this year.
The line wrapped like a snake down the sidewalk skirting a number of buildings. The breeze was refreshing and gently blew crimson and amber leaves that the little girl and her two big brothers collected into a bouquet for their parents. And there was not one mention of any candidate. Not one mention of even a local candidate or ballot issue for 45 minutes.
Instead, what you had was a broad and diverse group of Americans coming together for one purposeāto vote. It was maybe the longest Iāve gone in years without hearing or reading something about the candidates. Instead, it was a real opportunity to listen. Henry had great retirement but was worried about his about-to-be-retired sonās prospects. The bikers talk about home renovations. The family a vacation and the mom about a lack of daycare being why she had her little with her. And the veterans talked about an upcoming event at the base they both planned to attend. It was an odd kind of unity and peace. Being there for similar purpose everyone looking forward to or planning for the future in someway.
Itās not lost on me how divisive the world has become and platforms like this one amplify that division on purpose. Thereās much to gain in pitting neighbor against neighbor for a certain kind of person. For a certain kind of company. Or for a certain kind of adversary.
But when given the time and the opportunity, the first instinct of most people isnāt hostility itās hospitality. Itās to help. To smile. To show kindness.
As we went inside, each person visited an election worker at one of seven windows where we received a paper we signed and proceeded to another room where we were sent to separate voting machines. I cast my ballot for women up and down the ballot. I grabbed stickers for my kids and saw Henry right in front of me.
He pushed himself and his walker to the side. āYou can go around. I take too long.ā
āNo, sir. Youāre allowed to take your time. Youāre allowed to take space. Iāll walk with you.ā
He looked down and thanked me before taking off again. āSo did ya vote the way you wanted?ā
āYes, sir. I believe so.ā
āLots of people here today,ā he said.
āYes, sir. I thought there might be a line so I didnāt bring my kids but now I kind of regret it.ā
āHow old are they?ā
āSix, two and ten months.ā
āYou a military family? You have an accent.ā
āYes, sir. My husband.ā
We reached the end of the aisle and arrived at the exit. I held open the door for him. āLet me get that,ā I said.
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