Ego clouds and disrupts everything: the planning process, the ability to take good advice, and the ability to accept constructive criticism.
Put your ego in check.
When your ego gets in the way, you are only hurting yourself.
Even when you get what you want, you are depleting leadership capital...
Until eventually you have none, and nobody wants you to win.
Setting the example is the most powerful thing you can do.
It's the actions you take, not the words you say.
When you set an example and someone follows it, that's leadership.
Decentralized Command is a culmination of the first three laws:
Good relationships.
Effective communication.
Focus on important things.
That's how to empower your people.
Effective leaders stay calm, detach, assess the situation, and move.
They ask earnest questions.
They simplify the problem.
They clarify commander’s intent.
Then, they execute.
The mindset of “Default: Aggressive” is not toward other people.
It is being aggressive toward solving problems, making things happen and moving forward toward the goal.
Problems don’t solve themselves.
If you ignore problems, they usually don’t go away.
And more often than not, problems that are ignored grow substantially over time.
Decentralized Command means letting everyone lead by understanding the mission and making decisions.
This leadership principle applies at home.
Parenting is about setting kids up to make good decisions without you and preparing them for independence.
The weight of your words as a leader is a lot more than you think they are, and the weight of your words as a parent is probably even heavier than that.
Be very careful what you say to your kids.
Positive reinforcement is 20 times more effective than negative reinforcement at changing behavior.
As World War II General Bruce Clark once said, "10 attaboys for every one kick in the shins."