He is just a fool. You people should sha be mindful of whom you marry.
Your wife is the victim here. She was captured and raped, and your only retort is that, you can't save her and you'll marry because she has been violated. Did she consent to be violated? Whatever affects your partner is supposed to affect you. As a man, you should be willing to sacrifice your life to save your wife and kids.
Does he even understand it is a human being he is married to, not bad goat? God abeg
"If band!ts k!dnap my wife, I’ll will not pay ransom and remarry, because they would have slept with her" - Nigerian man.