Re: abusers. It's hard to find empathy, but it's important to remember no one becomes an abuser in a vacuum. Every instance of abuse comes from a place of trauma. Not to say abusers should be given passes. Support their victims/do no harm. In rare cases abusers can recover.

Abuse aid to men is not detracting from women, nor is it "MRA." Because abuse is not political, it is not gendered in victim or perpetrator, it is not defined by anything but human behavior. Therefore, abuse aid is a human right. All of us.

"Men are responsible for 96% of murders." You actually can't know that, because there is no centralized data base for murder convictions. Only *federal* murder convictions, of which many murders don't meet the standard for Federal charges. The rest, including manslaughter, are prosecuted at state level. For example, murder in the US carries an average 60% clearance rate. Meaning 60% of murders are cleared either through prosecution or another means. The average murder trial lasts 2 years. So we see in 2022 there were 21,939 murders. But in 2024 there were 274 convictions. Exonorations not subtracted bc year of conviction is unknown. Like it or not, that's 21,665 murders not tallied in your Federal offense stat that claims men commit most murders. Of those, 12,999 had clearance.

Every week I see, speak to & work with men & boys who have experienced violence, emotional abuse, sexual abuse & controlling behaviour Many never reported to police or official sources The issue is a lot more prevalent than we realise & it deserves much more attention

I have an angel friend. She was my neighbor during the worst of my divorce, when I was trying to leave my husband and couldn't. We've never gone out, had dinner, and I've moved across the country. But she was my friend then and now we randomly text one another, always when one of us needs a friend. Somehow. Life's little-big magics.

The CDC states: 1 in 3 men are abused by an intimate partner, mostly women. 1 in 3 women are abused by an intimate partner, mostly men. The catch: the CDC further specifies 1 in 7 men experience *severe* physical assault, discounting shoving, slapping, etc. The 1 in 3 women stat does not discount these same actions as they're not "severe" enough. It's always surprising to people when I post studies that show most abused women are seen in hospitals for bruises. Please note I am not minimizing their injuries. A bruise hurts, but it also indicates a relationship where that woman has been terrorized, made fearful, felt helpless. Where she now has betrayal trauma, not only with her partner, but herself. This matters just as much as her bruise. All I'm saying is bruises hurt men in the same way. Intimate partner abuse harms men, even if not "severe." It's well past the time to stop demanding that men be "abused enough" to matter. apa.org/news/press/releases/…

What men mean when they say modern feminism is full of women who want all the attention, all the aid, all the support and for men to pay it happily and do without. This is why feminism is failing,and women like this are to blame.

I'm not anon on X because men. I'm anon because the absolutely unhinged women who hate me for posting accurate stats and admit to stalking me. It's always the women who also post men are the problem.

So anyway, I didn't want to cook and made steamed eggs for dinner. Not only was it stupidly easy, it was delicious and one of those things I'm mad at myself for not making sooner. Whisk eggs with 1.5 times the amount of water, add salt, skim the bubbles, cover in wrap and steam for 10-12 minutes. I scored mine and added chilli oil and green onions. What are you eating?

A look at the IPH (Intimate Partner Homicide) perpetrator: generally, a high minority % experienced childhood abuse (physical and sexual), witnessed abuse between parents, and mixed results returned on the prevalence of mood disorders with some recording marginal while others record substantial. Frequent and consistent is the co-ocurrance of depression with the perpetration of IPH over the age of 65. Also consistent is the lack of mental health treatment and support to IPH perpetrators prior to the murders. Of interest to domestic violence workers is the indication IPH that occurs within the first year of separation, motivations may be spurned by abandonment triggers in the perpetrator. Another surprising statement is the frequency of bystander murder. In other words, yet another study shows that while support to women leaving IPV is important to mitigate the occurance of IPH, it's short sighted and ineffective as a sole measure. To further reduce IPH incidents, community support should be extended to boys experiencing conflict in family and men experiencing mental health and substance abuse struggles. Unfortunately, the current social narrative of "toxic masculinity " and cultural enforcement of "stoic men" only increases the risk of IPV and IPH. The exclusion of boys from DV Aid, safe housing and care may also increase risk in adulthood by reducing opportunities to aid boys., given the prevalence of childhood conflict in IPH. Also note the gendered ratio of IPH incidents between male and female perpetrators. When % is recorded, it unfortunately minimizes the true rate of homicide between partners. For the five years of this study, the ratio of 4 women to one man murdered remained stable. Female: Male IPH victim ratio: 2008:4.05: 1 2009: 3.87: 1 2010: 4.54: 1 2011: 3.81: 1 2012: 3.76: 1 Study Mean: 4.01: 1 jaapl.org/content/43/3/300#T…

Xmen actor Tyler Mane revealed he was diagnosed with breast cancer “My first reaction was to keep it secret. I mean, it’s kind of embarrassing ... then I found out that men are more likely to be diagnosed in advanced stages BECAUSE it’s not talked about and not looked for”