What about a man in bed with a tank top on..? I mean.. is it that bad too?
Man, I’m getting frustrated with these dating apps.
I’ll open a profile and see a man laying shirtless in bed, and it doesn’t make me feel drawn in or curious. It does the opposite.
It feels like intimacy is being turned into a public display for anyone willing to scroll by.
From a game theory / memetics lens, that kind of image is not neutral. It’s a signal. It sets the tone before a word is ever exchanged.
And for me, it doesn’t signal safety, mystery, depth, or earned intimacy.
It signals access.
Maybe that works for some people, but for me it kills the softness before it even has a chance to begin.