Somehow, this is how we were raised.
Be as self-sufficient as possible, and make it more convenient to host you, make it feel like an easier choice for them because somehow your presence feels easier.
You contribute somehow, life isn't that heavy on them when you're around.
I can’t stay over at someone’s house for 3 days and not do anything sha. Chores and/or financial contributions. I won’t be comfortable, no matter how close we are.