When you change for the better, particularly when it's visible - new style, new body, renewed outlook on life - it is often the case that you'll be met with mixed feelings by those closest to you.
There's this weird apprehension knowing the boy or girl you've known for years, perhaps even grown up with, is changing into something you can't recognize. They want to feel good for you, but they also don't want you to go too far - lest it reveal their own inadequacies.
Everyone thinks the people who make it are just luckier or smarter or born into the right situation. But that's not what you see up close.
What you actually see is someone who fixed a problem nobody asked them to fix.
Who stayed when every reasonable person would have left. Who went back to being a complete beginner after already winning. Who said the same thing seventeen different ways until one of them finally landed.
It was never luck. It was just someone who refused to stop doing the thing until the thing worked. And then everyone called it luck.
Every so often, disappear from politics, social media, gaming, anime, weed, alcohol, drama, porn, TikTok, streams, and podcasts—and just sit in your silence. The inability to let your mind settle and wander is why you're always anxious.
In an age where anyone with a social media account can market themselves to millions of strangers, learning basic marketing goes a long way. The best part is there's practically zero barrier to entry.
Writing is a life hack:
Outlining teaches you how to plan and organize yourself.
Drafting teaches you how to let go of perfection and produce.
Editing teaches you how to refine and remove the unnecessary.
The impact this small habit can have on your life is immeasurable.
I worried about other opinions before I even wrote my first post.
I worried about scaling before I even made my first dollar.
I worried about failure before even trying.
We plague ourselves with worry when the answer is and always will be to just fucking start.
Beginner hell is reserved for those who fail to reflect, review, and readjust their approach.
Trusting the process is one thing, doing the same thing and expecting different results is another.
There’s a fine line between discipline and sheer stubbornness.
The reason most men don't show emotion is because most men have been through a "never again" moment where their weakness was used against them.
Behind every unemotional man is someone who understands that crying about their problems doesn't fix them. Action does.
Roof.
Running water.
Clean air.
Clothes.
Food on the table.
Four limbs.
Five senses.
Whenever I'm having a bad day, I try to remind myself:
It could be worse.
If you’re focused, driven, and have insane work ethic, never let average people shame you for not being average.
It’s always those with low standards who try to dictate yours - because you remind them of everything they gave up on.
Before you label yourself depressed, lonely, anxious, or unlucky—consider the possibility that you just might be in a shitty situation, and that situations are temporary.
Change is easy.
It's the second, third, fourth, and fifth day that are hard. Anyone can get a hit of motivation - just look at gym's every new year.
Few can actually commit. That's why exceptional people are the exception.
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No matter how behind you think you are, it's still one more than whatever sitting on your ass would've accomplished.
Adopt a worldview
Adopt a business model
Adopt a life philosophy
Even if they're wrong at first, you have something to work with.
Because if you don't, you will live, breathe, and defend ideas that never belonged to you.
When you realize the average person can only concentrate for about 4 hours a day, you start respecting your time, energy, and attention a hell of a lot more than you currently are.