The Past few weeks have been brutal....I discovered my wife of 10 years was having an affair with her boss around the beginning of March. We have a 4 year old daughter together.
I was initially very enraged, but calmed myself and collected some evidence to make sure. She had gotten very secretive with her phone lately, but I realised this later after I connected the dots.
I have always trusted her completely,so much so that I don't think I had ever questioned her whereabouts or who she was talking to. Never ever checked her phone in 10 years. The only reason I got suspicious is that I saw a photo in her phone while we were looking at pictures of our daughter.
It was a screenshot of a chat from her boss She had asked him whether he had deleted the previous messages and he must have taken a screenshot to show her that he indeed had.
When I realised, my world crashed. I got a tracker and monitored her movements and during the next 2 weeks I saw 8 instances of them sneaking off after work while she would message me that she would be late.
about 6 weeks ago, right around my 35th Birthday. I told her to move out and she's moved back in with her parents. We have been sharing custody of our daughter. Even after that she has been lying to me...She says that the affair lasted only 2 months when I know for a fact that it has lasted at least 6 months. he was even in our house around Christmas when we had her office friends over for dinner.
I had decided on the very day when I was sure that she cheated that I will definitely divorce her, because cheating is a deal breaker for me. But she is unable to accept my decision and every time I bring up that it’s not going to work out she still begs me to try.
At this point I don't know what to do. Am I wrong to want to leave?…Even my parents are asking me to reconsider, but nobody sees how unhappy that would make me...
WHy am I being treated like a criminal when I have not done anything wrong?