Targeted dad who misses his children terribly. Spreading awareness to help others. Follow me on my journey to reunite with my boys. #ParentalAlienation
#ParentalAlienation is an extreme tactic to enforce control. Initially this control is perpetuated by the alienator until it is eventually passed to your alienated child.
Then your child carries the burden of enforcing the alienator’s control over you.
I wanted to wish every parent who will be without their children this Christmas peace & comfort knowing your child(ren) will be thinking of you at the same moment you are thinking of them.
Hold on. Be strong. You do matter. You have always been & forever will be their parent.
It’s 2AM. I just woke from another dream about one of my alienated sons. Just like other dreams I have about my kids, often they wake me from the extreme panic that comes from them.
Strangely, I come to accept the pain of my situation when awake for which my dreams cannot.
Having the unfortunate experience of being in a relationship with a narcissist comes with a lifetime of abuse even when you leave the relationship.
Nothing more triggering to themthan you healing & finding love again. Your children are weaponized & used to punish you even more.
Take note. If you feel as if your spouse sees child parenting as a competition between you and them, you are most likely in relationship with an alienator who has already begun alienating your children from you.
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If you are child of a narcissistic parent, you learn very early on there is only one loyalty and one love you can openly display in this world. And it is all for your narcissistic parent.
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One of the most damaging impacts of #ParentalAlienation is teaching a child in order to receive love, they must reject love.
This distorts their perception what true love actually looks like.
I saw my youngest child the other day. I saw him from a distance then shot him a text telling him I love him.
He immediately looked all around to which I assumed was to see if I was near. He never saw me.
I’m heartbroken this is what our relationship has become. 🥺
A letter my now adult son left for Santa when he was a young boy asking him questions, which Santa graciously replied. I saved this letter & recall the excitement in my son’s reaction reading what Santa wrote.
I never thought one day this young boy would grow up rejecting me 🥺
For some damn reason I was hoping this year would be different as there have been signs things may be breaking with my kids. I got it wrong. I still love them.
To the many fathers out there who, like me, won’t see or hear from their children this Father’s Day—you matter & you are still loved by them. Know, even though they are unable to show or tell you, they will be thinking of you.
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To the many fathers out there who, like me, won’t see or hear from their children this Father’s Day—you matter & you are still loved by them. Know, even though they are unable to show or tell you, they will be thinking of you.
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My love for my boys is unconditional. I find comfort knowing my boys understand they can sacrifice their love for me so they can receive their mother’s love. However, in time, all superficial loves are exposed & die. It is then, where real love is revealed.
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When my son tells his grandparents the reason he cut off having a relationship with them was because of their support for his me, their child, then you know my son is a victim of #ParentalAlienation.
Explain what else could it be? There isn’t any other explanation is there?
Happy Mother’s Day to all you wonderful mother’s who do things the right way.
If you are separated from your children on this day, please find comfort knowing your child will be thinking of you.
I traveled last night to see my son graduate law school. It’s been over 5 years since I have last seen him.
He looked so happy & proud. I’m uncertain if he knew I was there but I’m thankful to have been able to see this big milestone of his that I will carry with me forever.
You sabotaged your own relationship with them. Your ‘children’ are all grown up and it’s their lived experiences that are the reason for them not wanting anything to do with you.