Live a richer, meaningful life through Slow Living. I share insights on how and why in my weekly newsletter. Link's below.

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8 Jun 2022
For years, I was stuck on teams drained of passion that treated me as a mere code monkey. I got no say, all blame, no praise. My Growth - My Career - was stuck in mud. I don't want that to happen to you or anyone else. So, here are my top tips on how to escape from misery:
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25 Sep 2024
What it looks like when people are seen as nothing more than data points:
First they send you this...
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12 Sep 2024
To stay present in a moment, I dedicate a separate time for reflection. You can do it by dedicating time for a journal, diary, or in my case, a newsletter. I don't have to think about what to post while traveling because I know there's time for that later.
What I wanted to write is how good my life is and how grateful I am. That's what such views provoke. But no! I am fucked. Because being in such a place and not being in the real moment, but thinking what I am going to post is just a mental illness. Let's admit it.
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21 Aug 2024
Every opportunity has a cost. Whenever I see someone boasting about making bags of money a month, I don’t just wonder how they got there. I wonder what opportunities they gave up to get there.
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27 Jul 2024
When we hurt others, we hurt ourselves.
The tragedy of the commons
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27 Jul 2024
If it's not clear why, it's because there are second-order effects and cascading long-term consequences to hurting others.
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19 Jul 2024
Generating code with AI reminds me of generating SQL with an ORM... You still have to take time to know and understand what was generated otherwise, you leave yourself open to bugs, vulnerabilities, and performance issues down the line.
18 Jul 2024
If you think you can ignore generative AI as a developer to keep your code pure, you're hamstringing yourself. In fact, it's just meta-coding. You still get to write instructions, just as a prompt. Top left 3 lines are mine. The rest is @AnthropicAI Claude. And the code works.
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19 Jul 2024
An upside of more interconnectedness? You can reach people you could never reach before leading to new connections. A downside? A failure can reach people it could never reach before leading to widespread outages.
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27 Jun 2024
To be a professional developer, you have to learn your limits and communicate them clearly... *as soon as possible. The longer you wait, the harder it will be to deal with the consequences of those limitations.
To be a professional developer, you have to learn your limits and communicate them clearly. If you're unsure you can implement something, say it. If you know you can't meet a deadline, tell it in advance. If a requirement looks too weird or hard, speak out and get help.
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24 Jun 2024
A high-end gym with membership fee that's also... a recreation center, event space, salon, spa, and workspace... isn't that just a modern country club minus golf?
Interesting article on high end gyms filling gaps in human connection & unwanted commercial real estate. Will companies ditch the office and buy gym memberships for employees instead? What do you think?
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23 Jun 2024
Context is everything. "I can't believe anything works at all." can be read at least 2 ways. "I can't believe anything works at all. We really figured it out." vs. "I can't believe anything works at all. We really screwed it up." 2 words flip the meaning.
22 Jun 2024
a mind boggling amount of work went into the world around us. I can't believe anything works at all. It's actually remarkable, shocking, absurd. Us humans. We really figured it out
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22 Jun 2024
Technology can either extend or replace our abilities. e.g. An AI writing tool can teach us how to improve if we learn from its suggestions. It can extend our writing abilities. But when AI auto-generates writing, it replaces our skill. And if we're not practicing and improving, then our writing skill stagnates or degrades. But the need for writing - for communication - doesn't disappear. So, often when a technology replaces a skill of ours, our reliance on it grows. Yes, machines were meant to serve us. But when we over-rely on them, we become slaves to the machine.
We are creating a world that is only fit for machines. We built machines to serve us, that was the whole point of science. Not to expand our knowledge for knowledge's sake, but to create industry. To create machines. And now, we exist to serve the machines. We sacrifice the liveability of our neighbourhoods to make them more suitable for cars. We subject ourselves to endless EMF radiation for the sake of our mobile phones. We pollute the planet and strip it of all of its rare earth minerals in order to make more and more machines, while we poison our air and our water. We destroy nature-- both the nature for our own enjoyment but also the nature that animals require to live-- in order to build more and more, always expanding our cities. But never with buildings that beautify our surroundings or serve some higher human purpose, but ugly buildings that will be dated in 20 years and torn down in 50 to house various consumer industries to sell us more machines, just to take up more space, until the domination of technology over nature is complete and the only trees you see will be plastic replicas. Be sure to get that microchip so that you can serve-- I mean, "interface" with the machines better. Never mind that it will probably give you cancer. With all our scientific progress, why have we not figured out a way to make our planet cleaner and healthier for organic life (especially us!)? Why has all of our "progress" resulted in us becoming further enslaved to machines? And the Leviathan will march ever onward, in the name of science and progress, into a transhumanist, techno-communist hell... We could have created such a beautiful world. Instead, we live on a polluted, overcrowded planet where we are depressed, anxious, and sick all the time. Was all this "progress" really worth it? Was it even progress at all?
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7 Jun 2024
What I love about writing for my newsletter is having the autonomy to write what I want, how I want. I feel like if I outsource writing to AI, I either lose that autonomy or I become a micromanager (of prompts). And I don't want either.
6 Jun 2024
The subtle imperfections to someone’s writing are slowly becoming one of the big tells to me that AI didn’t write it. And I think we’ll see more & more of it. The more polished it is, the more people will learn to ignore it.
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3 Jun 2024
If we don't like what we see in the mirror, the question ought to be "How do we change ourselves?" Rather than "How do we change the mirror?" -- "How would algorithms change if they prioritized our long-term desires?" is akin to asking how would the mirrors change if the mirrors prioritized our long-term desires. The mirrors don't prioritize our desires. WE do.
This meme is revealing, both in its brilliance and its shortcomings. I'll start with the brilliance. Social media algorithms have a deeper and more intimate understanding of their users than most of their best friends do. They know our quirks, our desires, our lusts, and our aspirations. They know things about us that we don't even know about ourselves. So yes, they disturb us by showing us our own shadow. What about the shortcomings? The algorithms cater to our short-term desires instead of our long-term ones. They suck us in with political dramas, viral videos, and all kinds of porn. Like a box of Pringles, these things are irresistible in the moment, but leave us feeling regretful after the fact. So yes, like junk food, social media can ruin lives by preying on our impulses. But our information environment doesn't need to be polluted like this. This begs the question: How would algorithms change if they prioritized our long-term desires?
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1 Jun 2024
On our duty to care for others and the impact on ourselves: Most of us make products or provide services to customers. So, we still have a duty to others, even when there may not be formal laws that govern our actions. When we neglect our duties, we don’t just hurt others; we destroy society and hurt ourselves. ... When we invest in our brothers and sisters, we invest in ourselves. And there’s a bonus: our loved ones, present and future, also thrive. That’s the key to building a healthy, sustainable society. Always remember: We each have a duty of care to the world and the people in it. More on this here: newsletter.belowthesurface.t…

31 May 2024
“Through caring for certain others, by serving them through caring, a man lives the meaning of his own life. In the sense in which a man can ever be… home in the world, he is at home not through dominating, or explaining, or appreciating, but through caring and being cared for.”
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17 May 2024
An excerpt on "meaning well": No one cares about your good intentions in business, or really… in real life. Because if you want to make a positive difference in the real world, you need to achieve a positive outcome in the real world. You need to act. And your actions must add value. Effort isn’t enough. You need extra effort to ensure your efforts get you closer to your goals. It means taking the time to understand what someone needs. And then more time to plan, analyze, design, and implement a solution that won’t come crashing down in the slightest breeze. -- I often see people on the internet who say that “it’s the intentions that count.” I get it. They probably tried to make a difference, failed, and want points for effort. Maybe that’s how it worked in school. But that’s not how it works in the real world. More on this here: newsletter.belowthesurface.t…

This should be obvious. Once you become an adult in a position of responsibility, there's no more "well-meaning." An actual well-meaning person would research the topic, talk with people, make small tests, pre-mortem, etc. If you didn't, you don't get to claim you meant well.
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16 May 2024
Fun curiosity as a means to an end => innovation and invention Fun curiosity as an end => hedonism
16 May 2024
Of course Indians and Asians would not understand that you learn things for fun and curiosity, not merely for “utility”. That’s why they usually become robots, cogs in the machine. And never the creative force. The university was invented by European aristocrats who loved learning for the sake of it. Not peasants always scrambling to be “useful”. Useful to whom? To what end?
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15 May 2024
Reminds me of: We all start off as outsiders of all conflicts. At some point, we’re told to better understand the plights of a specific person or group of people. That’s fine. There’s nothing wrong with that. But once you take a side, you’re no longer an outsider to the conflict. Then, the Fandom Empathy within the group prevents you from understanding counter viewpoints. From: newsletter.belowthesurface.t…

I encourage everyone on Twitter to listen to this episode of the Cosmic Matrix podcast with @lauramatsue and @veilofreality because almost all of you could benefit from hearing it. The kind of polarisation they are talking about is rampant on Twitter. One of the things they mention is that when you swing hard to one extreme, you actually strengthen the opposite. Everything in the cosmos seeks balance and this applies on every level of reality. If you can’t hold the tension of opposites and you collapse into one extreme side or the other, then you produce an equal and opposite reaction on the other side. Every incel creates a new feminist or vice versa, for example. Holding an extreme position is generally anti-truth. Ideology is designed to protect the ego more than to illuminates objective reality. In my many years in extremist politics, I’ve noticed that the genuine truth seekers always inevitably end up learning to hold the tension of opposites and coming to a nuanced understanding, while those who want comforting lies cling ever more tightly to ideology. Any -ism is fundamentally anti-truth to some degree. It’s a lot easier to indulge in self-righteous anger and rage at a hated “other”, but this is very low-vibe and the mark of an unhealthy and unbalanced mind. One should instead strive to maintain equilibrium and refuse to be affected by extreme rhetoric. Another thing Laura and Bernard mention is that polarisation necessarily seeks the destruction of the other side. This, too, is something the cosmic laws do not allow for. The framework of the cosmos is built upon the tension of opposites and the destruction of one means the destruction of the other. When you take up an extreme position, not only do you contribute to the very problem you are complaining about it, but you also close off any pathway to a constructive resolution. So the question you have to ask yourself (and honestly reflect on) is, do you just enjoy being mad or do you actually want an effective solution? Sadly, I think a lot of people just want to indulge their anger and actually revel in the very destruction they nominally complain about.
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6 May 2024
Empathy looks easy until it's time to empathize with a person we don't like. Counterintuitively, empathy can be weaponized to sow division among people. I wrote more about that here: newsletter.belowthesurface.t…
I think this is one of those issues where men and women are talking past each other. Men fixate on the statistical realities and assume that women must be dumb for not understanding the math. Men aren’t wrong about the statistics, but what’s lacking is an understanding of the emotional content. Women are comparing the bear to the behaviour of men that they’ve experienced. They aren’t talking about the statistical realities, but about how hurt they have been by men. Men are getting offended at being essentially accused of being inherently violent towards women and I think men have as right to be offended by that, since most of them don’t fit that profile and are far more likely to want to defend a woman than hurt her. But they are perhaps taking it too personally and this prevents them from hearing what women are actually saying about the fear they have towards men because they have experienced something terrible and dehumanising at the hands of men in the past. The reason this video is resonating with women is because this man understands what they are actually trying to say, whereas men who focus on the statistics are talking about something completely different. I think both groups have valid points, but neither is really hearing what the other is saying. Both sides seem far too triggered to listen objectively or with compassion.
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