The hardest part about going through IVF is the letting go part. My entire life has been defined by grit, hard work, and resilience. Someone like me statistically should not be where I am today without defying the odds. Born to a rural farmer's boy in China, went to a non-target school, and worked my way up from customer service in tech. But with IVF I can't work harder, push myself, or optimize my body more in this process. My entire conditioning is working against me. I spent my 20s working at elite institutions, trying to act like a man. Pixie hair cut and androgynous clothing. I listened to Sheryl Sandberg and drank the Lean In Kool-Aid thinking I would have more time and deferred my personal life and family planning for my career. Now in my 30s I'm feeling so much grief for believing I could have it all. I know each cycle and every body is different. The journey is not over...but man, we were so lied to by the Girlboss and Lean In era.

I looked at the 100 Indian unicorns created thus far to see what the most popular route is. Any guesses?

BEN STILLER talks about passing on directing Good Will Hunting (1997).