Trans man shares Stories about cis women and sex dating "I wanted to share some experiences I’ve had with cis women. For clarification I’m a 20 year old stealth trans guy, I haven’t dated in ages and I’m still a virgin (and probably will be until I get bottom surgery unfortunately). These are just stories I have of girls that were into me and my feelings about it. All these experiences were validating in a way because at the end of the day it feels good to be desired lol. Might not be too interesting, hopefully someone gets something out of it. Please don’t be mean to me in the comments First one was when I was still in college (in the UK, so I was like 17 I believe). Tw for transphobia I guess. This girl on another course dmed me on Insta and was very clearly flirting. We exchanged dms but I was a pretty insecure person at the time and I didn’t really know how to deal with it so I ghosted her (don’t do this, I have issues I need to work through). One of my friends also tells me he’s heard from someone that she’s into me but I don’t really do anything about it. Anyway nothing came of it for a while but I did notice some of my friends (that knew I’m trans bc I’ve known them forever) seemed to really dislike her but wouldn’t give a reason. After some pressing I find out she’s friends with someone that went to school with me at some point in the past and somehow knew my deadname and both of them had been calling me a girl and deadnaming me out of earshot whenever I walked past. Really jarring stuff, I barely even talked to this girl and she was so upset about getting ghosted that she felt the need to do all that.  Coincidentally around this time a rumour starts going around on multiple courses that I’m trans. I still don’t know if this was her but if it is she probably outed me to a fuckton of people, whenever someone asked me about it I’d laugh it off though. Still have no clue who from my college knows I’m trans and it keeps me up at night lol. I feel like this reflex is the same as when some women will call a guy gay for rejecting them, they’re bitter about being rejected and have to attack the guy’s masculinity in some way to feel better about it. Still a horrible time though wouldn’t recommend. The other two aren’t specifically trans related and are a lot less horrible. I still don’t know if either of these girls know I’m trans to this day. Basically I used to be a guitarist in a band, and after one of my gigs my friend comes up to me and tells me that this girl that was there is into me. I remember thinking she was hot when I met her before the gig so I’m pretty chuffed, I hang out a bit with her and my friends after and she seems kind of flirty but maybe a bit anxious. Sucks for her though because I’m anxious too lol. At the end of the night she invites my friends to stay at her place because she lives in the city, but I had college the next day and couldn’t. I remember spending the drive home thinking about the fact that I could’ve got laid (even though realistically I couldn’t have because I don’t have a dick lmao). Anyway fast forward a bit, we’ve messaged on insta a bit but nothing special. One night she sends me a voice message where she’s clearly drunk and is talking about how she wants me to fuck her. I was really thrown off by this, idk why I am the way I am but it made me kind of uncomfortable. I feel like most guys would jump at the opportunity if a girl was saying really sexually explicit things to them. You can probably tell I don’t have much dating experience from this story lol. The next day she tells me she regrets it and she’s really sorry yada yada and I tell her it’s all good because realistically it is. Nothing really comes of it after this, I don’t want to turn her down but I can’t exactly hook up with her with the amount of bottom dysphoria I have (and I don’t want to out myself) so I just don’t make a move. Not really a point to this story, just that being trans sucks I guess.

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