Before I had my baby, or even before I started thinking about motherhood, I used to silently judge mums a little. Anytime I visited friends with kids and saw toys everywhere, unfolded clothes on the chair, or random baby things scattered around the house, I’d wonder to myself, how do they just leave everywhere like this without arranging it? Even on TikTok, I’d watch some mums record videos with messy backgrounds and lowkey think, her space should have tidied up a bit before filming.
Now that I have a crawling baby who wants to touch everything, carry everything, scatter everything, and somehow appear in every corner of the house at the exact same time, I finally understand. You can literally tidy up a place completely, turn around for two minutes, and wipes emptied out, toys everywhere.
I’m actually a very neat person. I genuinely love clean and organized spaces. But motherhood has taught me that sometimes rest is more important than trying to maintain perfection every second of the day. There are days I look around and just leave the mess because I know the moment I start arranging one side, my baby is already busy destroying another side.
Honestly, becoming a mum has made me softer and more understanding especially towards mothers. A lot of things look easy from the outside until life puts you in that exact position. It’s so easy to have opinions about people’s situations when you’ve never experienced them yourself.
Sometimes, you truly cannot judge or fully understand someone’s situation until life allows you walk through it yourself.