Was talking with our CFO.
He coaches little league. Got into it with the other coach.
CFO’s player (bats last) gets HBP in the head/neck. Gets dizzy.
He decides to sit him out. Kids mom agrees.
Other coach comes over… hey whats the rule here?
Like he’s being totally objective.
In fact, he’s trying to get an automatic out.
These are 9 yo kids. This “adult” man is trying to win a game at the expense of a 9 yo.
So the hurt 9 yo feels bad, says “I can go.” CFO coach (former coach of the year btw) says no way, we’ll just take the out.
The opposing coach is hiding behind the rules. “Just trying to understand.”
No you’re not. You’re pathetic scum trying to find a way to win a 9 yo baseball game. At a 9 yo kids expense.
The point I want to make here is: you can’t compartmentalize your soul.
That coach may console himself “I’m a great family man”, or “I volunteer” or “I’m a deacon at church.”
But that is not your identity, those are just things you do.
Same is true in business. Just because it’s allowed doesn’t mean you should do it.
You know that but you still justify behavior sometimes by what’s allowed.
I know because I’ve done it too.
How you do things matter. You are a collection of little decisions. The big ones are easier. It’s the little behaviors that end up making you who you are.
I posted about an MD who, through a banker buddy, reached out to a former employee to surmise his status.
The point wasn’t that he can’t do that… he can. These point is, for 2 years, he’s been denigrating this employee after an acrimonious departure. And for those 2 years he’s been worried sick because he knows that guy could hurt him.
Imagine looking in the mirror every night and knowing you’re a fraud.
That MD probably has a family and considers himself a good person. Meanwhile in business, he does things he wouldn’t tell his priest.
Not because the priest wouldn’t forgive him, but because he has justified this behavior so much he doesn’t see a problem with it.
Meanwhile his soul erodes.
That’s the same as this little league coach. He’s out there volunteering, just checking on the rules but actually asking for a 9 yo with a concussion to either get back out there or be the reason his team loses.
If he wins the game like that, he loses some self respect.
But actually- he didn’t win.
The CFO coach decided to take the out for the kid and in the last inning, his team rallied and won the game!
In fact they rallied so hard that they batted all the way through and the kid sitting out cost them two automatic outs.
CFO coach left with a the respect of the crowd, his own self respect, and a win.
The loser coach went home to justify himself in the mirror.