Roughly 10 years ago, I had supper with a few friends & quite a large number of people I didn’t know, & one man brought his fiancée who suffered from severe coprolalia (a form of Tourette’s, where your brain makes you involuntarily blurt out inappropriate & offensive things.)
Over the course of the evening, she happened to shout out the most derogatory homophobic slurs one could imagine whenever I spoke.
Because I KNEW she had this condition she COULDN’T HELP having, there was ZERO offence taken & we all simply laughed it off.
Believe me, there was NO ONE more embarrassed, distressed & upset as SHE was, despite our efforts to reassure her.
Probably worth bearing in mind before mindlessly castigating someone for a condition that is already hell to live with…