In Feng Shui, your family of origin is your 'ancestral estate.' If your parents didn't pave the way or teach you survival skills, it’s like they gave you an 'energy-leaking' or 'barren' plot. In such soil, sprouting late and growing slowly is basic physics. Now they stand in the mud and judge you for not growing as fast as those in 'fertile estates.' In Feng Shui, this is called 'Yin energy suffocating Yang' (a toxic field stunting a good seed). The solution is simple: 'Move out.' Since the ancestral Feng Shui doesn't nourish you, mentally and physically 'sever the tie.' Don't demand a harvest from barren land; go out, find your own dragon vein, and build an 'energy-gathering layout' that actually works for you.
Having parents who didn't prepare you for literally anything in life, judging you for being "behind" as an adult is definitely a canon event for a lot of neurodivergent people.