Because women have already spent generations doing everything they were told would keep them safe.
WE covered up.
WE stayed home.
WE travelled in groups.
WE avoided certain places.
WE altered their routines.
WE were careful, and careful, and careful.
And yet sexual violence persisted.Because the variable that needed to change was never their clothing, their timing, or their BEHAVIOR. It was perpetrator behaviour, enabled by a society that too often looked away.
Breaking this system will not happen overnight.
It requires change in classrooms, courtrooms, police stations, film studios, WhatsApp groups, dinner tables, and political platforms.
Not all at once.
But consistently.
What gives me hope is that none of these solutions are mysterious. What makes me lose hope is no one is ready to work collectively to do this
We know that consent education works.
We know that accountability works.
We know that peer intervention works.
We know that economic empowerment works.
The problem has never been a lack of knowledge.
The problem has been a lack of collective will. The question is not whether we know how to reduce sexual violence.
The question is whether we are finally willing to treat it as the urgent, solvable, structural problem that it has always been.
Notice every thread and
every solution discussed here asks something of society.
It asks something of schools.
Something of courts.
Something of police.
Something of media.
Something of men.
Something of political leaders.
And yes, something of women too, particularly in confronting forms of internalised misogyny that continue to be passed down across generations.