You definitely have been ignoring the calls for women to be forced to provide sex, lose voting rights, and more on incel forums. Not to mention the mass shooters that target women. The danger is in pretending that the incel forums aren't full of violent rhetoric
The most dangerous men (gang members, criminals, etc) are NOT incels. They typically don't have many issues attracting women or having a social life.
The lonely incels you think are such a threat a really just dweebs playing Minecraft