I wish people didn’t use X as a playground to process their personal trauma.

This isn't about men's feelings, we have the data, decades worth, that's what is fueling the men, not just feelings. You are not our mirrors, you are our sheathes, you don't realize this, and the only people who can point out where your chains are, you've been trained not to listen to by default. (like you aren't right now) One of the things Black women have been trained to do to help the system maintain control over Black men is to make sure we remain engaged with you WHILE denying us the very things we wish to build. "No brothers come lead us, we need you." Then we come back and try to lead and you make sure to move the goal posts eternally so that you never have to see us as legitimate leaders. "Well a real man would do xyz...", "Well the white man does xyz for his woman...", the list is unsatisfiable by design. Again this is not personal this is structural, Black women aren't inherently evil, you are simply the systems containment tool. The fear from the women is that you see us increasingly disengaging, you were not trained to know how to counter that. Plus it doesn't benefit you personally, and it feels bad, and you've been conditioned in a way so that it's nigh impossible for you to understand the real reasons why. So you frame it as cowardice, moral abdication, betrayal, etc. Listen, when we realized what you were re-engineered to do, and who actually owns you. We realized that even entertaining y'all on those grounds without you being aligned with us, was doomed to failure. So no, there will be no leadership, not without the Black woman's alignment first. That is the only way "WE" together "breakout" of the system. So which way Black woman?

When I hear someone ask a married couple how they've made their marriage work for so long and one of the responses is, "She's always right." My ears immediately stop working.

The unfortunate truth is that collectively the Black woman is not the Black man's woman, she belongs to the system. She is not our mirror, she is our sheath purposefully re-designed to blunt our sword, by a dominant society psychologically addicted to but terrified of the power of the Black man. Even the greatest leader can not lead a people indoctrinated in a culture to oppose his leadership reflexively. But that is her purpose to waste our time and stifle our energy to build anything that would threaten the dominant society, and in that she is completely adept. However she is blind to her design, which makes it even more potent, because she will never be able to understand how she is herself, and the only people who can explain what happened to her are the same group of men the system trained her to not respect the word of. That is the true problem facing the Black American man. We want to build power through family legacy, but Black American women have been intentionally poisoned against exactly that. What man wants to build when he knows there is no future?

i just realized people who are annoyed a lot deeply lack accountability. everything is everybody else fault.

My son randomly grabs my wife and I for group hugs. This is the closest I will ever get to understanding why divorce is so painful for kids. Growing up, I never saw two adults love each other, so I never got why folks were affected when their parents split. But now I see.

if you have great intentions and poor execution you can come off shallow and/or careless because intent isn’t usually communicated until after harm is done anyway. work on making sure your intent and execution align! everything is not about you!

Black men are overwhelmingly matriarchal betas. Low energy

What are clear signs of LOW SELF ESTEEM?