Four years ago today, I received the phone call that changed the trajectory of my life.
I was told I wasn’t cancer free after all, and that my breast cancer had metastasised to my liver, lungs, lymph nodes and pelvic bone, as well as a new grade 2 BC tumour on my skin. I was given three years and beyond devastated.
After a weekend of shock and fear, I refused to accept his prognosis. I chose not to see that oncologist again and instead went looking for thrivers. Someone told me early on that living in fear isn’t living and I knew I had to hold onto that.
A week later, Maya (who’d just turned 15) and I got on a plane to Paris, the first place she chose, and that became the start of our many adventures, a way of saying yes to life ❤️
Knowing time is limited has meant fast forwarding a living list full of hopes and dreams, something to focus and look forward to between scans, results and treatments
It’s been four years of navigating the many side effects, some really debilitating, and uncertainty, whilst somehow finding a way to live alongside it all, and I’m beyond so grateful for how I’ve responded to treatment so far.
It’s also brought so many new and unexpected things into my life.
I never imagined campaigning would become such a big part of it, from being a patient advocate, fighting for access to life extending drugs like Enhertu, better care for MBC, and the right for terminally ill adults to have choice at the end of life. I’d never been in Parliament before my diagnosis but now I’ve lost count!
I co founded Brighton & Hove Secondary Sisters (thanks to Secondary Sisters) which is a wonderfully supportive group and now even has its own exercise classes!
I’ve met so many incredible, inspiring women in the community, but have heartbreaking lost far too many before their time 💔
Life feels more heightened, the small things brighter and moments more meaningful. My family and friends have embraced it all with me, having adventures and making memories I’ll treasure forever. I’ve found more joy than I ever thought possible living with this diagnosis.
Thank you for all the love and support, from friends old and new, to total strangers, it’s means the world❤️
So four years on I’m still here, and hoping to have many more adventures from my ever growing living list!
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