Well... She did it again today.
She called off dialysis earlier today when she needed it the most. She kept us (my grandma, my brother, and I) awake all night because she kept having accidents or felt like she was slipping off the bed.
I don't have power of attorney for her. But soon, she'll have no choice.
The only thing holding me back from putting her in a nursing home is PoA.
Been in talks with APS (Adult Protective Services) and I can't do much to "force" my mother to get the care she needs but they will put everything on record as I get power of attorney and attempt to reason with my mom to get her to agree and sign the necessary paper work.
UPDATE: Today, I called paramedics for my mother.
The usual case: "She didn't go to dialysis and she's pushing it" situation.
My mother has severe edema from CKD and weak heart. Both of my mother's legs are swollen to capacity causing water blisters the size of large coins to form and pop also causing open wounds. She also complains about not being able to breath (due to the fluid/water build up in her body aka edema). The edema causes numbness in her legs and feet which doesn't allow her to walk- and the rest of her lower extremities are numb.
Along with that, She has a severe anal prolapse and vaginal lapse. no sensation just sharp pain and lots of diarrhea.
On top of all those medical issues, she's legally blind!
Her quality of life at an all time low.
Before the paramedics took her, they notified me that this case will be reported to Adult Protective Services since she has a history of calling paramedics multiple times for the same medical issues I mentioned above.
I stress to her that dialysis is important because of her severe edema. They are able to take 2-3 liters of water out of her body that builds up over the course of a week.
They told me that if she's neglecting herself and she is unable to provide care for herself and doesn't allow care providers to do their job, she will be taken into the hands of APS and put into a rehab facility for elderly and disabled. I really hope they do. I can't do this all by myself. She's getting worse.
She wouldn't allow me to put her in a rehab because she's too afraid and scared the rehab employees won't be attentive and leave her feeling alone and in pain 😭 and that has left me feeling conflicted on whether to force her to go or not. It puts a lot of mental and emotional stress on me.
I just needed to update you on what's happening with me since I didn't stream earlier today. I'm taking care of my mother and trying to get her more help.
Please pray for my mother and myself. She needs all the support as well as I 😔