I can go a step higher, I've observed people make up things to justify their avoidant tendencies. Like legit fabricate a person's flaws or vilify a lighthearted opposing view or quirk.
My avoidant friend spent months complaining that nobody ever stayed. Then he met a girl who actually did. She was consistent, communicated well, didn't play games, and genuinely liked him. At first he was thrilled. Then she started acting like she cared. She'd check in on him, remember little things he told her, ask how he was doing. Normal stuff. That's when he started freaking out. One day he called me and spent 30 minutes explaining how overwhelmed he felt. I asked what she was doing wrong. He said, "Nothing." I thought he meant he couldn't explain it. Nope. He literally meant she was doing nothing wrong. A few weeks later he told her he needed space. She said, "Okay, take all the time you need." Three days later he was annoyed she wasn't texting him. I reminded him that this was exactly what he asked for. He went quiet for a second and said, "Yeah, but I didn't think she'd actually do it." To this day that's the most avoidant thing I've ever heard.