This is what a non-transactional relationship looks like.
1. You go on dates, the man pays for it.
2. She visits him, she pays for her transport.
3. On their special dates, they gift each other whatever they can afford without comparing or competing with each other.
4. She pays for her hair, airtime, rent, etc, and he does the same.
5. If they're cohabiting, she brings and he brings, but he pays for the rent. And the bringing doesn't have to be equal.
6. If they're serious, she continues to look for ways to invest in him, while he continues to look for ways to invest in the future of both of them.
7. If she's in genuine financial needs, he can offer to help as much as possible if he can.
8. Once in a while, he can decide to give her money randomly. Especially when she does something he's proud of.
9. He's not responsible for her siblings or parents' financial needs or wants.
10. Sex is never weaponised or commercialised. It happens because both of are adults and you enjoy pleasing each other sexually.
11. You genuinely care for each other, and would still continue to care for each other, even when sex has not been involved for a while.
12. If the woman "loans" him money, he has to pay back. And if he "loans" her money, she doesn't necessarily have to pay back or pay all.
End.