cw: suicide implication
I think I've been out to friends as early as 16 but I only came out to my family when I was 35. Or rather, when I sat down with my parents individually to tell them I was planning to transition, both of them kinda knew that I was going to come out at some point. They were just waiting for me to open that discussion.
I can remember when I was younger (as early as 6 years old) my parents weren't really open to the idea just by hearing how they spoke and seeing their actions about LGBTQ people. They caught me literally in a closet crossdressing and I remember getting the "boys clothes or for boys, girls clothes are for girls" lecture before my Dad came home to laugh in my face screaming faggot at me while I hid under a table in shame. Really this just taught me to be more sneaky about it and took as much time to indulge in it whenever I stayed home by myself when they went out.
But somehow over the years, they became more accepting. I remember a time my dad was going on about how people should start treating people with respect regardless of identities and sexualities which is WAY different with how he acted. However, they are still learning and correcting themselves when refering to me and other LGBTQ people but I know their heart is in the right place... or it could be a case of, "as long as I am successful, who cares how you live." I am choosing to be optimistic and believing they did change but maybe it's both, haha.
Thankfully, I have a good relationship with my parents and the friends I have around me. It has helped my mental health tremendously.
Had it gone horribly, I honestly don't know if I would have it made it to this point in my life.
com que idade e como foi a de vocΓͺs?