Hall of Fame Coach Dick Vermeil on outperforming your self-esteem and how to instill belief in those you lead using the R.A.P acronym:
The successful people you admire have all mastered one thing: they've learned to outperform their own self-esteem. ๐ฏ
Self-esteem is your internal assessment of your worth and value. It's different from self-confidence. Confidence is task-specific, think "Can I Do This?"
Where self-esteem is broader. It answers, "Am I capable? Am I valuable? Do I belong?"
It influences your willingness to pursue almost EVERYthing.
As leaders, coaches, parents, and teammates, we have more influence over the self-esteem of others than we realize.
Coach Vermeil believes it often comes down to three simple things, this is where his RAP philosophy comes into play:
Recognition. Do you truly see them? Do you know who they are beyond their role, title, or performance? Do you communicate with them outside of what they can provide for you?
Appreciation. Do your actions communicate that they matter? That their effort, presence, and contribution have value?
Praise. Do you tell them when they're doing a good job? Do you reinforce what's working instead of only correcting what's broken?
People grow when they feel seen and valued.
They perform at their best for someone or something when they BELIEVE they matter to that someone or something.
Sometimes the greatest gift a leader can give isn't more instruction, it's BELIEF!
It's helping someone believe in themselves when they can't yet believe on their own. ๐