I’ve gone through three different girls phones (call me insecure or whatever) since being in college. This is the biggest thing I’ve learned:
Keep in mind I’ve never slept with a 10 or a “baddie” or whatever. I’ve slept with beautiful mids, 7s and 8s, cute girls with solid bodies and good personalities, nothing crazy. I know my lane.
Literally any girl that is slightly attractive has 100s of dudes in her DMs. Half these guys are losers just shooting their shot, but there’s some big dogs that you should be worried about too.
So if you’re texting, snap-chatting consistently with a girl, and you think you’re the only guy competing for her attention, you are wrong. The average girl on any big campus has close to unlimited options.
Also, if you’re dating a girl, and you all break up, there’s a good chance she is immediately going to give one of the guys in her DMs a chance. So your ex is probably getting plowed way quicker than you are going to be plowing another girl.
I remember sophomore year I was hooking up with a girl pretty consistently, I figured I was the only one since we spent a good amount of time texting and seeing each other and I learned she was literally screwing another dude at the same time. At the time I was pissed but in hindsight, I’ve learned it’s just the way it is with a lot of girls. I still think she’s a sl*t though.
Anyways, do what you want with information. Don’t get caught up too deep with some of these girls at your college.