poet. a lifetime is not enough to be all that i want to be.
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7 Nov 2025
Please, read books. Not just captions, or carousel posts, or what made it to the top of your feed. Read books. Long ones. Complex ones. You cannot build a mind with weight on the back of social media ephemerals. Intellectual depth demands patience.
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the label of being "finished man/woman" usually implies a total depletion of leverage or a collapse of individual autonomy. but when this state is brought about by love, the breakdown isn't a failure of the system; it’s actually a complete recalibration...
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this surrender places you at the closest possible proximity to the metaphysical definition of divinity. if the ultimate nature of the divine is defined as love itself, then reaching that point of absolute emotional vulnerability is an alignment with that higher order.
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the secular world tracks power through control and preservation, so it views this absolute capitulation as ruin. but it’s actually an entry into a different economy of scale. you aren't broken; you've just traded self-preservation for something infinite.
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4 Jun 2025
Every guy wants to hit. It's just that some of us are respectful enough to move at you only with intention. We want to hit and from the collapse and ruins of the bedspread we want to build an affair, love and a home.
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Jun 13
spending emotional capital trying to convince someone to keep you around is a form of self-subsidized delusion. it stems from a fear of seeing the reality of their indifference. but ignoring the data doesn't change the structure of the relationship; it just delays the collapse.
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Jun 12
Read “The Grace of Us“ by Tóbi Bítàn on Medium: medium.com/@oluwatobiloba159…
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Jun 12
If you're born with a gentle and luminous soul, guard its beauty with fierce devotion. Do not permit the cruelty and entropy of the world to erode the native grace that dwells within you.
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Jun 9
at some point, you need an anchor in the objectively ascertainable. the human psyche requires a feedback loop of tangibles to sustain itself. it’s the difference between telling yourself you’re competent and actually seeing the results of a task you finished. one is a projection;
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Jun 10
there is a baseline level of effort required to navigate the social scripts of a patriarchal society. you’re basically expected to initiate, to open the floor, and to take the lead while the woman is expected to maintain a level of courtesy. i fulfill that specific quota...,
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Jun 11
Love now!
Love while your heart still gets moved by the smallest things, while a single person can become an entire universe in your eyes, while your soul is young enough to be shaken by the presence of another, while a conversation can keep you awake all night.
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Jun 10
the only way to get an accurate reading on a relationship is to remove all social pressure and step back. allow people to operate with complete autonomy. when they have total freedom of choice, their default actions will show you what they prioritize when left to themselves.
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Jun 10
if you ask someone who already bought a product how it is, their review will be heavily distorted by their need to believe they didn't waste their money.
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Jun 11
Most people live in the delusion that the world operates on some invisible ledger of moral merit, that if they’re good, loyal or nice enough, the universe, women, friends, and opportunities will eventually reciprocate. That's fairytale, a magical thinking for children.
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i think we need to clarify the fact that the ideology of projecting confidence without having something to be confident about is weird. they’re tons of motivational quotes about having confidence being screamed into the ears of very ordinary people, which is hilarious.
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there is a baseline level of effort required to navigate the social scripts of a patriarchal society. you’re basically expected to initiate, to open the floor, and to take the lead while the woman is expected to maintain a level of courtesy. i fulfill that specific quota...,
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people who are interested find ways to make that interest legible. if you’re left sitting in uncertainty or trying to decode signals after a reasonable amount of time, that ambiguity is your answer. uncertainty isn't a puzzle to be solved;
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it’s a clear indicator of low interest. there’s no point in cradling a stagnant conversation for days in hopes of a breakthrough. you set the stage, you look for the vibe, and if it isn't matched, you move on. anything else is just self-deception
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